The Ransom

I didn't really know in the beginning what the Ransom meant.  I've seen it in the adoption blogs but didn't really put the two and two together  but soon enough I did and I know now exactly what it means.  It's the sum of money that stands between you and your child. It's the sum of money that must be paid before you can take your child home, love and take care of them.  When someone decides to adopt it's not only for their own well-being, sometimes it's not for their own well being at all; it's for the well being of the child.  So, when that someone decides to give a child a home it should not cost them thousands of dollars to do so before they even see the child for yhe first time. I know, domestic adoption will not cost you a penny and our social worker asked us; why not domestic adoption? There are children who need homes in our own backyard. I realize that, the difference we felt was that children overseas suffer more, needlessly.  Here we will do a great deal to help a child's medical needs and we have great programs and interventions at our disposals whereas the children in the poorer countries do not. So, why not help a child there?  But it is the ransom that will stand in most of our ways. My little LB received her Princess PJs I sent her and I know she will wear her Princess PJs every time she goes to sleep but she will not have her momma tuck her in; she will not get her kiss good night and she will not hear her momma say she loves her until this ransom is paid.

Without Child

It's so hard being without child to commit to; that little light at the end of the long and dark tunell.  One tiny step closer to completing the home study came through this week, hubby's police clearance on his fingerprints.  This was a time I would find out who my husband truly is.  You know how sometimes the spouse could be a thief, a criminal or worse and hides it so well the other spouse has no clue however in case of my hubby as our daughter, the oldest said he's only guilty of loving me too much.  So sweet, the way she put that.  I know he does, for coming as far as he has in this with me.  In regards to adopting LB I asked an agency here if they would consider registering for a license in her region and they said they would but in order to do so it may cost another twenty thousand on top of usual fees of forty thousand plus.  Gosh, I don't know who has that kind of money, not us.  Why does it have to cost so much to help a child?  Still, there is an option, there is a way, a light at the end of the tunnell.

Home Study App #2

We did it.  We just had our second app. in home study.  We brought our oldest, Sherie with us to also be interviewed and she did very well.  We were not there but the social worker said we have a wonderful daughter and we should be proud and she's more than willing to step in to care for this child if something were to happen to us.  That is truly wonderful to hear that she would give of herself to look after this child even if to begin with adoption was not her idea.  So, the appointment went well.  We are going to continue the home study and social worker said she'd come to our home next time to speak to our other two children.  Of course I can't help but wonder how that will go but I know it must be done so let's hope for the best.  Waiting for my husband's fingerprint results to come in.