OK some things have cleared up. That’s good news and bad news at the same time and some of you know what that feels like. You’d like to be happy but you can’t be. First my wonderful dear husband has agreed to go proceed with the home study and after its completion we will review the situation. I was uncertain about that at first but then decided that I will have to go with it. It is not easy for our male counterparts to admit that they would have more kids after they thought they were done. Seeing and hearing about the orphan situation of the world makes our maternal instinct kick in but the males, they can sit back and watch the world go by. That is not to say that once they are committed they are not just as driven and fierce about their little cubs as us females; they can be equal if not greater than us but it is slow coming for some.
On the other hand I just heard eight year old Leah seems to have a family working on documents for adoption. I’m presuming it’s in her own country since I don’t know of any agency who works in her region. I’ve sent her one last gift for Christmas and they thanked me for looking after her this year. Well, the pleasure was mine as well. Of course I wish her nothing but the best with her family. As well I heard back about Lilly and her region. Though the agency has worked there in the past they tell me there is no activity in this region now and no international adoptions are happening; if that’s from their end or ours I’m not sure but unfortunately it’s a no go. That’s the thing with regions, they can be fickle, you never know how they are going to react. I’m sad to say that at least for now these roads are closed to me. It doesn’t mean that others won’t open.
We will push forth to complete the home study and be provincially approved and then I’m certain things will fall into place as they should. Two other children have caught my eye but at the moment they are not available to me either. Maybe this is telling me something. Maybe I should not be adopting or again and again and again I have to be patient for the right things to happen at the right time. There’s been a more than a few instances where a family commits to a child only for some unforeseen obstacle to stop it but the situation always leads them to the child they are meant for and there’s been no regrets only certainty that this was how it was meant to happen. God has a plan that is not always clear to us at first and there is something to be learned with each road travelled.
So, I sit here eagerly awaiting January 15th so we can move on in this journey. We may not complete it for another few months but when it is, it will be just the way it was meant to be. After all he is at the helm and we are here to follow.
aggghhhhh i am so excited for you!the timing seems to fit with your husbands call of homestudy and wait and see, perhaps wait is the key word here and the path will be clear a little further on! Oh boy this is fabulous, and just a few months for homestudy? in the UK it can take up to 4 years! praying for you my friend xxxxxx
ReplyDeleteJane, thanks for the prayers, I still need them. It's a long road for me and others have done a homestudy in less but mine is taking longer because we have to get everyone's feelings and reservations sorted out. Originally, I sort of threw it on them suddenly; we're adopting. They all said, whoa, we're what? Then of course I knew we had to go at this slowly. With some people it looks so simple and easy, people donate money and things just move along for them, but not for all of us. Still, I'm eager to perservere.
ReplyDeleteIt may very well be a European family. I have a lot of friends currently in process to adopt older children from Italy, Germany, France etc. Russia is a popular place to adopt from for European families and once they have permission in their own country from the central adoption authority the process is relatively painless and very fast. Typically from when they submit their dossier to referral is maybe a month or two, they travel almost immediately for their first trip, go to court a month later and 30 days later bring their child home. Russia likes European couples and the process is easy for them. The good news is, if there is a European family coming for her or has already submitted their first dossier and is just working on documents for court then she should be home with her family relatively quickly.
ReplyDeleteHi, when we were at the adoption training course they said that Italy is the top country to adopt children especially from Russia. That may be because as we know Italians like a big family. Families from Spain also did a lot of adopting but Russians are also making a big effort to adopt or foster their own orphans which I think is good for them however the amount of orphans they have is staggering. Their children are so beautiful too and so seem to want to be in a family.
ReplyDeleteItaly is definitely at the top of the list. Our daughters' two biological brothers were adopted by an Italian family so we have become involved in more European adoption groups than US ones. Russian are trying to foster more children, but numbers of orphans adopted from Russia to European countries have been doubling and tripling since 10 - 15 year ago. Quite the opposite of what has been happening in the US etc. France is also a big one. French families adopt many children from Russia as well. I'm actually part of an international adoption group that spans every country that has families adopting from Russia. It's an effort to reunite siblings who have been separated by adoption the way our daughter was. As they have Admin's from each country it helps families reach out internationally in search of siblings instead of being limited to their own country. The region we adopted from was only open to Europeans but since our facilitator did mostly European adoptions we were allowed in since we were the only American family adopting through her that was interested in that region at the time. They were very surprised. I don't think they were necessarily closed to American families at the time, though they have recently limited their adoptions to European families and cancelled American court dates and referrals. Regions like St. Petersburg, Perm, Kemerovo, Tver etc who are closed to American families or very slow to refer children to American families refer many children to European families. The process in country (in Italy, France etc) can take some time, but the process in Russia is very fast which is good for those families and for the children.
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