Donations

Okay, yes, I've put a Chipin for donation toward my adoption but do I have the right to expect donations when I don't have a child I'm commited to??  That is the question in my mind.  Would I help someone who was hoping to adopt?  You know, I just might simply because they've gone and opened their mind to adoption; to helping a child.  They've probably donated their own money already to others who hope to do the same thing.  Nothing in adoption is a sure thing, even commiting to a child does not guarantee you that you will go home with this child or any child but just to have hope to do what you can to help a child and actually take a leap of faith and doing everything you can to give a child a home is all we can do.  As mentioned before we need to have our home study done and approved before we can do anything else so that's what we're doing and it costs money.  The loan is still in the works but it will not near cover what is required.  So, for now realistically the Chipin is there for us and our immediate friends and family but if you feel like maybe you want to help this leap of faith we appreciate it. 

Note to Self

This is really just a note to myself to say that my wonderful hubby has kept  his fingerprinting appointment.  Really, I fully expected him to cancel at any time citing he's done enought to appese me or that he's got a headache or that he plain forgot but it didn't happen.  He attended and it appears they no longer ink your fingers to fingerprint you like they used to.  They are now scanned.  I didn't know they had moved past the ink that's been around forever.

Not only has he done that but he's got in touch with the social worker and set up another appointment so start our sessions.  We're going on vacation but I hope to get in a session or two before we go.  OMG.  He really did it.  Mind you he's not thrilled about it but he's tolerating it.  I really think that for now that's enough.  We will go with that and see what happens.

In the meantime little LB is still waiting.  She will stay at her baby house for another year just in case there is something we can do to adopt her but as it looks now, chances of that are slim.  No agency works in her region and I've tried to see if she could be transferred for medical reasons or  for testing but that doens't seem possible.  I think it would take some kind of miracle for that to happen.  All stars would have to be aligned, all montains be moved but miracles do happen and one could just be heading beautiful LB's way. 

Here is a recent photo of my pride and joy, my grandson Brandon who's just passed his first birfthday, learned to walk and gets himself all over the place.  Little munchkin, he's so cute.

Yes, Langley

I just checked on Langley and at last he is listed on my family found me page.  I'm so happy for him.  He will have parents and a family.  He will be loved.  I hope everything goes well for his family and they get to him as soon as possible.  Thanks to RR this little boy will not go to an institution where he would waste away to nothing.  Tears of joy.

As far as my own progress goes, where is it at now?  Nowhere.  Nothing more has happened.  Still working on the loan, on my family, on hubby, trying to make them understand what I'm feeling.  Trying to make them see the little faces.  That's the thing, they know the orphans are out there but without faces they're really just a word and they're just too busy with their own lives to think about what they can't see.  If they can't see it, perhaps it's not really there.

Good Thing

I thought it was a good thing, everyone was doing it and it seemed like it was working wonderfully. Sooner or later all children would find a family.  I had no idea it was not right.  Really, I didn't know.  Can't stop though because it is a good thing.  Look at how many children have been found by their families, hundreds, children who would normally be left forgoten or worse parished somewhere on the other side of the world without anyone giving a care.  So how can it be wrong is beyond me.  You would think they would be happy that others were willing to help and share in highlighting the plight of the orphan as much as possible.  They were finally real.  They had faces, stats and personalities.  They were reachable and we knew where to help.  It was and is a good thing and I will never say otherwise.  I have however taken off all the photos from my own website and so they will just remain names but we know who they are and will continue to think about them, pray for them, give them homes and our hearts.

Press My Luck

So, the meeting with the social worker took place tonight at her home. Nice neighbourhood.  It was a lot more intimate and cozy in a home atmosphere than an office.  At first, hubby, let's call him CV listened carefully and then it was time to bring him into the conversation.  It had to happen sooner or later, gulp.  She asked him about his long name and how he got it to break the ice, literally, breaking the ice.  Seriously, though he said his thoughts but not in his usual offhanded way.  There was more thought to it and he asked questions as well.  The social worker, let's call her DN, she offered a lot of knowledge and insight on different types of adoptions, foster parenting, hosting programs, domestic and International and  encouraged that we explore them all.  She let us both have our says and overall I think it was a success.  Although I already filled out an eight page home study application we did not yet sign up.  We only used this visit as a consultation but she said it could count toward a session if we were to sign up however I did not want to press my luck and let CV decide if he was goint to pay for consultation or a down payment of the program. I can see that DN did not think he was ready yet anyway so probably the best thing happened.  CV said how much do we owe you and DN said two hundred so that was that, the other three hundred remained in pocket.  Much to my dismay later, I did not argue.  He was here.  He listened.  He talked.  He considered and we went home with a hug and a kiss and smiling.  That was good enough for me.  So, I would say that was a success because the door is opening wider and wider each time. I love him so much for that.

DN suggested taking the training course first if that would help so we'll look into that though to CV it was suddenly like a brand new idea and he actually thought it was good and yet I've been going on about the course, the training, seminar for months.  "Oh, did you say that?"  "Yes, honey, many times."  I'll forgive him for that. 

The loan officer came back to us and guess what??  We're approved; loan approved that is.  He's going to gather up the papers and call us in to look over more details and for signing.  Although CV doesn't want to get into more debt he may be relieved to have some money readily available.  Sure, it's not near enough of what we would need but it's a start.  Gotta start somewhere, then I'll have to sharpen up my fundraising skills to fill in the rest.

Still hoping to be a mommy to LB, one who loves her very much but so far she is still sitting in the wrong region where she is unreachable and there doesn't seem to be a way to move her to one the agency could work with.  I've written many letters to anyone who would listen using my trusty Google translater but no one seems to want to try. It is so disheartening.

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Langley, too is not in the right region for me.  Why these regions anyway?  Why can't it all be one big region?  It would make things so much simpler.  Langley's fund is moving again othanks to Jen over at "Help me Save Langley" page.  He is so lucky to have her by his side to shine a light on him and give  him so much support.  Please, please help Langley with his fund so he can find his family.

Strange but True

Yes, very strange and very true; we're getting some things accomplished.  Medical reports for the agency, done, certified marriage license, here, police record applied for, appointment for my hubby's fingerprints, made.  Apparently, I don't have to do one.  Lady at counter ran some kind of test and males born in certain years are more likely to be sex offenders so they all have to get fingerprint tested, females do not, however hubby seemed to have no problem with that and made the appointment for June 27th.  First, I'm shocked the RHS hubby is even here much less making an appointment to get fingerprinted. We've applied for a loan and on Tuesday we're seeing a social worker and hopefully starting our home study. 

What does this mean?  Does it mean we're adopting?  Does this mean he has agreed or is he just letting me go through the motions and hoping I'll hit a snag somewhere? 

Truthfully, I've come to realize that he doesn't really need to actually say the words.  They're just words anyway but actions speak volumes and right now there is a lot of action.  What's even more strange is that we're more or lass starting the process but we're not commited to any child, that is, here in Canada we're not allowed to commit to a child until our home study is done and approved by the government. 

I would hope that we could commit to a certain little seven year old but one, as mentioned, we need to pass home study and two she is in the wrong region.  She is in a region that no agency covers here or in US and would need to be transferred.  I've been trying to work on that but it's proving next to impossible but not ready to give up yet. 

How this will turn out or who the right child will be for us, time will tell.